So, it seems I am not the only one to be struggling with this. A close mommy friend of mine wrote an email just yesterday echoing the same thoughts, feelings and frustrations. She is a writer, and like me is trying to launch an unplanned career, doing what she loves (writing), 15 months after the birth of her first child. She, unfortunately, has the added stress of really wanting to contribute to her family's income while still being a full time stay-at-home-mom. Finances not being particularly harrowing at the moment for me, I do feel the strain of being pulled apart in seemingly opposite directions. I have two full time jobs and many part time ones. All of them I love, even doing the dishes, because they contribute to this great life I have and the great family of which I am lucky to be a part. But, no one can do it all. So where do I cut corners? Usually, for me, it's my health and/or my sleep. Of course this has the cumulative effect of making me less effective in the rest of my jobs, and therefore always leads to an emergency bail out by one or more of the supportive people in my life.
My point is that there aren't any clear solutions (short of a cultural revolution which allows for village like communities where child rearing is a collective joy and responsibility) but, I do believe, if there is a way we women will be the ones to find it, day after day, because our work, our art, our families, our loved ones, ourselves and our kids are everything.